There was a moment during our interview for my podcast when, right in the middle of a thought, you said, “I’m sorry, can you excuse me for a second?” And then I could hear you stand up from your desk, start to walk out of the room, and suddenly you were engulfed in silence. I remember being able to hear what that room looked like… the slight creaks and cracks of a wooden chair on bare wooden floorboards. But I couldn’t hear you. It was as if you’d disappeared. A couple minutes passed, and I remember expecting to hear a cough, a clearing of the throat or blowing of the nose… the things people typically step away from the mic to do… but instead, complete silence.
Then the minutes were over, and you were sitting down at the desk again, and you picked up with your answer right where you left off.
I remember later, when it came time for mixdown, listening to that part of the recording, wondering what had happened there, realizing I’d forgotten to ask you about it in our lengthy post-interview chat. It was a point of banal curiosity, but I found it remarkable that in such a vibration-rich wooden environment, it could sound as though you took a few steps and - suddenly evaporated.
It would continue to bug me, the next few times we spoke, afterward realizing that I’d again forgotten to ask you about it, forgotten to share a laugh together over my silly obsession with it.
When you came up with the idea of having monthly machinima audio conferences, I should have been focused on how willing you were to have them be at a really awkward time of day for you if that would mean more people could show up in the US and Europe. And when we auditioned a number of technologies before finally settling on Skype with plans to eventually try out Second Life, I should have made a bigger deal out of how willing you were to go outside your comfort zone with these things, all for the sake of creating a community outlet for others. But all I could think about was your magic trick of space-time.
The longer I waited to bring it up, the greater pressure I felt to come up with a good lead-in for bringing it up… an engaging Houdini anecdote, a good wormhole joke. Something, anything. Too much time had passed now, just bringing that up out of the blue would be weird, right? I mean, we’d certainly become friends. No, good friends. You were giving me pointers on a sci-fi screenplay, but it didn’t feel like I was using you - even in a benevolent mentor sense - no, it felt like sharing between friends, as if you had a vested interest in seeing me make the best film I could, because you really cared. Because there was nothing you wanted to do more right now than talk to me and hear what I had to say. That’s how you made me feel, so why couldn’t I bring up this simple thing? “Hey, Peter, that night when you teleported right out of your room, what was that about?” What was so hard about that?
Perhaps it is the nature of the friendship built upon online contact, where it feels perfectly natural to talk about “the work” or share a laugh or a sigh about events out there in the world… but to inquire about that space on the other side of the keyboard and microphone, that sacrosanct space where a physical presence lives and breathes, that feels risky, awkward, invasive.
And so to take a moment to comment on that real physical person, to say what a kind, generous, all-giving man of immense talent sits there… to call attention to what your professionalism and skill has done to legitimize and strengthen machinima… if I could never muster up the courage to tell you that, how could I find it in me to ask about that night when you disappeared?
Looking back on our most recent conversation, realizing now that it is the last we will ever have, the price of my hesitancy is clear: I will forever wish I’d dared to breach your space.
Interacting with you made me a better filmmaker, Peter, and I will never forget you.
See Also: Machiniplex3: On the Death of Peter Rasmussen